Three Words of Wisdom
By John Goetz
It is part of culture to pass down the knowledge we have gathered to future generations. We do so through stories, metaphors, books, song and a countless host of other methods. It is an attempt to help our children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren learn from our experiences. With the help of some clever marketing I would like to pass on a bit of knowledge to you the reader.
Now, how do we apply this law to a person struggling with a problem or issue? First, this person names the feeling they are experiencing. Second, they answer the question, what is making me feel this way. By focusing on the what, a person is able to identify a behavior. The third step is looking to change the identified behavior. By changing the behavior they can change the feeling they are experiencing. This method is action orientated with conversation serving the purpose of identifying the feelings a person is experiencing, identifying what is creating the feeling, and then choosing a new behavior to create a positive change. Remember change is hard. People in general resist changing their behaviors and it requires a great deal of effort to try new behaviors. This makes it extremely important to accurately identify the feelings being experienced and their origin. Changes in behavior can then be effective. Actions will speak louder than words.