• Call Now: 405.341.3554
  • Connect

Edmond Family Counseling Articles

Articles by the Counselors at Edmond Family Counseling

Sheila’s Self Care Quarterly Check Up

Thursday, April 19, 2018

After making a commitment during 2018 to actively participate in self-investment by finding two days per month to specifically devote to meeting my own needs, I feel compelled to provide a first quarter report on my progress.In part, it’s this stems from the need to hold myself accountable and make sustainable strides in self-care.To that end, and much like a financial quarterly report, I have broken my reporting into three categories:Current Fund Balances, Compliance Issues and Annual Projections.

Current Fund Balances

I must honestly report that my current level of self-investment is not as high as I would like for it to be. I have discovered carving out time to devote to meeting you own needs takes more time and persistence than I was expecting. Just identifying and designating days to devote to self is a full time job. I have always felt like the White Rabbit in the Alice in Wonderland story muttering, “I’m late, I’m late, I’m late”, as I charge through my day.

I apparently possess the mindset that a full schedule is a sign of productivity. In an effort to defend myself, I will eagerly pass the blame for this one to my parents. Two individuals who have become more hyperactive as they have aged. So in short my current fund balance is probably a victim of my genetics and raising and everyone knows overcoming your raising is difficult.

Compliance Issues

Well, this area looks better than the above current fund balance situation. I have been able to successfully sequester two days a month for self-care for the entire first quarter of 2018. However, to be honest, I did have some assistance from Mother Nature. February was such a short month I was concerned the two days might be pressed out of existence by a mountain of paperwork. Fortunately, a cold snap accompanied by precipitation allowed me to meet my goal.

The public schools stepped in during March and provided a “spring break”. I know it was not specifically for me, but it created just enough space for me to squeeze out those two days. I am currently really concerned about April. I have spent one day on self-care, but as I look at the calendar, I have serious doubts as to where I can find day two.


On a more positive note, I have discovered I do have the ability to set boundaries and saying “no” to projects which might keep me from maintaining my 2018 self- investment goal is not as painful or uncomfortable as I thought it might be. On the downside, I have discovered that when I have the time to spend on myself, I often feel guilty or lazy. It is as if I view making the time to meet my needs as self-indulgence, not necessity.

In order to be successful as a self-investor, I am beginning to see that I will need to frequently utilize one of my favorite quotes, “You must do the thing you think you cannot do”. What the summer months hold may provide a reprieve or the greatest challenge I have faced so far. Fortunately, as I have often found, the reward of pushing ourselves to be better people lies not in achieving your destination, but in the experience of the journey itself. Stay tuned.

Post has no comments.
Post a Comment

Captcha Image

Trackback Link
Post has no trackbacks.

Recent Posts


How common are panic attacks Instagram Self Investment Negative Thinking Communicating with your child Communication techniques for couples Teens and cell phones Chad McCoy Co-Parenting Bullying Anxiety Helen Keller Opiods National Drug Threat Assessment Summary Positive Reinforcement How prevalent is domestic violence Teenage Development privilege Gun violence and mental health Why did the system fail Codependency How many sessions do I need Impact of Suicide Help for panic and anxiety Microagression Self Image Mild-Depression Happiness Death Andy Weir Belinda Crosier Retirement Planning Self-Esteem Divorce Learning Divorce with minor children Emotions Relationships Micro-aggression Chores for Teens Links between unemployment and depression Prom guidelines for teens Golden Child Newsletter Depression and social media Brain Research James Dobson Learning Disabilites Captain of Your Ship Facebook Teen Safety Heroin in the Suburbs Butane Honey Oil Edmond Municipal Court Teen Suicide Great Depression Stress Presidential debate Edmond Dr. Ben Carson bucket list Quinton Ellis Teen Drug Use Elizabeth Loftus Drug Abuse Teen Parenting Spanking Parenting and Cell Phones Teen Jobs Oklahoma drug use Boundaries Call of Duty Prom Girl Strong Bias and memory How to detect signs of depression Drinking in high school World Health Organization Family Theory Freshman Year Parenting Setting Boundaries for Your Teen Apps for Teens Setting Boundaries with Adult Children Suicide Disciplining Teens How to talk to your kids about terrorism Mayme White Miller Conflict 710 Adult Children Teens Use of Technology Child Development ADHD School Anxiety Enabling Adult Children Holiday stress Millenials Food Allergies Consequences Affluenza Prevention The Butterfly Circus Schedule 1 Drug Risk taking Political bias Donald Miller Organization Dating What is domestic violence Technology Medical Use of Marijuana in Oklahoma HB 2249 Domestic violence resources Unemployment Communication Goal Setting Substance Abuse United States Drug Enforcement Agency Drugs How to control panic attacks Joshua and Rebecca Weigel Community Suicide Prevention Programs Movies for Teens What Matters Most Program Speaker Listener Technique Sanjay Gupta Tetra-Amelia Syndrome What Really Matters Grounded Hope The Martian Book Sheila Stinnett Prescription Drugs Americans with Disabilities Act Depression Childhood depression Summer time parenting Anger Family Roles College Age Children DIY Marriage counseling Back to School The Golden Years Co-Parenting Class Jackie Shaw Role Models Fidget Spinners list Isolation in teens self-sabotage David Feldman Reading ADA Ridley Scott Edmond Family Counseling Changing Problem Behavior spring fads Siblings in Conflict Suicide Prevention for Teens College Campus Exercise treatment for depression Funding Al McCormick Managing substance abuse Social anxiety Disability Working Parents Addiction Procrastination Is therapy forever Oklahoma Statute on Marijuana Wax 5 Love Languages 13 Reasons Why NOT Jay Asher Hanna Baker Bias Waxing Detox Diet high school School College Transitions Fear Lee Daniel Kravetz Early Treatment of Depression Ben Carson Cell Phones Support Group Discipline Twenty Somethings Panic attacks 13 Reasons Why Scapegoating The Miracle Worker Amanda Percival Seniors Marriage Drug Use History Developmentally appropriate strategies for grief counseling Nutrition and stress Teenage perception of drug use Teens and Time Management Butane Hask Oil Edmond Character Council How long should counseling take Strong Willed Child Retirement personal growth Trauma Alcohol Divorce School Tumblr Heroin Crisis Teenage Boys HK pen Edmond drug use Therapy Misconceptions of Smoking Marijuana Gender Roles Positive Illusions New year’s resolution How do children process trauma Personality Test Young Adults Oklahoma Department of Human Services Political Correctness Positive Thinking Snapchat Confidentiality Twitter gadgets Emotional Development Panic When Teens Should Get a Cell Phone non-verbal communication Suicide Prevention Recommendations Darcy McConnell How to manage anxiety Audrey Woods Parenting Teenagers Annie Sullivan parenting college age kids Independent Living Time Management Grandparenting Teenagers Michael Jackson Teens and Smartphones Mental Health Grandparent Initiative Feldman and Kravetz Parent peer pressure John Goetz Child Abuse College Underage Drinking Summer AARP Marriage counseling Summer Plans for Teens Dr. Rhonda Patrick Will counseling work quickly Normalcy The Amazing Race Character Development Unemployment and depression Aggregated News for Teens Disasters Choices Communicating with your teen Decision-Making What to do when you are laid off goals Terrorism and children Culture How to recognize domestic violence Parkland Shooter GirlStrong Supersurvivors Prom safety Social Media Panic Disorder Holidays Entitlement Syndrome Parenting with purpose The Martian Movie Peers Marijuana Grandparents as parents Sexual Abuse Family Systems Theory Bong Eating Disorder Limitations of counseling Legalization of Marijuana Parenting through Divorce Children


Call Us Now!